birdo3 asked: Juliet, I have missed you. Please blog more. :-)
Thank you, that means a lot.
I will be blogging a lot more now, and I hope to earn back the followers I’ve lost in my absence.
I missed you guys too.
Love,
Juliet
Anonymous asked: Juliet, I need your help. There's a guy that I recently reconnected with after not being able to talk to them for almost 2 year because of a bf I had then making me de-friend some close guy friends/any ex's I had. Well me and this guy, let's call him M, every time we talk, there's always an attraction between us. We dated maybe 5 years ago, but I broke up with him because of my own insecurities. I'm dating someone right now, but I'm very much attracted to M. What do I do, how should I feel??
I think I’m going to have to stick to my guns on this one and tell you what I’ve told to everyone else who is currently in the middle of a love triangle: follow your heart and do what makes you happy.
At the end of the day, it doesn’t so much matter who you spent your days with, so long as you spent your days being happy.
Love,
Juliet
Anonymous asked: There's 2 boys (I'm 17). One is an ex away at college, the other is here. Parents don't like boy1 bc of his complicated life (crazy ex). They worry & it's warranted. I've like boy2 for a yr. He's younger & I was happy just being his bf. Things have changed with boy2 & he told friends he”s not letting it slip away again. Have not told friends about boy1. Can't give details, but involves his crazy ex. Feelings for boy1 have been changing. I want to end it, but he needs a friend. How do I do it?
You can’t live your life for other people, you need to live it for yourself. So yes, on one hand it’s nice to be there for people when they need you, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you need to be there for them.
You deserve someone who is stable and makes you happy, who brings passion and excitement (not drama) into your life.
Learn to tell the difference,
Love,
Juliet
Anonymous asked: So I just recently started talking again to one of my ex's(ex M) because he was always a good friend and I missed him. I had to stop talking to him before because of my ex(ex A) was always jealous of me talking to other guys. So I reconnected with him online and I can't get him out of my head :/ I have a bf, whom I love and care about and always want to be with, but I feel like a moth to a flame when I talk to ex M. what do I do? is it ok to feel like this?
It’s OK to feel however you want to feel. So you like two guys? Worse things have happened!
I will point out that you should probably be with someone secure enough in himself that he doesn’t shut you off from all male contact… and if you’re going to choose a boyfriend, I would go for the non-jealous type (they are much more stable).
But you’re young, be a moth if it makes you happy and follow the flame. Romance can be an epic adventure if you let it; just be careful not to get burned and to enjoy every moment of your life, regardless of who you spend it with.
Love,
Juliet
Anonymous asked: I have a history with one of my best guy friends. We've been best friends since birth and it was a constant on and off falling for him. I met another guy though and we've been dating for 4-5 months. A while ago, my best friend kissed me. I don't know if I should tell my boyfriend or keep it hidden. I swear I didn't kiss back, but for a very short moment, I sort of enjoyed it. There was that spark. What should I do?
Do what you want.
Life is short, and the truth is that we spend so much time obsessing over little things that don’t matter. For instance, “who should I be with?” I’m about to answer a slew of e-mails, all asking me the same thing… strangely enough. Everyone wants to know, ‘I like guy X but guy Y is also really nice but I don’t want hurt guy Z’s feelings… how do I solve this messy situation?’
Hearts heal. They might take awhile, and no, you shouldn’t walk around purposely breaking people’s hearts, but you should also always follow yours. It won’t steer you wrong. Be with the one you love, love the one your with.
Lord Alfred Tennyson once said the famous quote “‘Tis better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all” in his poem, In Memoriam 27, 1850. There have been many a night, and many a heart break where I and many others have thought this a joke.
Why would anyone subject themselves to such hurt and shame? After all, half of the time when we ‘lose’ our ‘loves’ we’ve also fought to keep them… or done something to cause the loss in the first place. Maybe we didn’t play the game well enough, or we were too honest about how we felt, or maybe we were too jealous because we felt insecure about our love, or maybe we fell too hard, too fast, and loved too much. So we feel shame. We rack our brains in the middle of the night, filling out hearts with regret; regret that we weren’t more clever, or that we didn’t have the right thing to say; regret that we didn’t do whatever it was that would make him stay. So with all this pain and regret, wouldn’t it be better to have never loved at all?
What if we strip away the regret? Will the pain fade away with it? If we forgive ourselves, and embrace the love we give, will we be able to heal?
I don’t want to regret. So I wasn’t perfect. I didn’t know the exact right thing to say at the exact right time. I’m proud of every ounce of love I gave and I wouldn’t take back a single moment. Maybe that’s not how you play the ‘game’ but then again, I’m better than your silly rules and I’d rather have loved and lost, than never loved at all.
